Is Chivalry Dead?

I am all about equal rights for women and avoiding placing gender roles on people. At the same time I was always so appreciative of both young and old men giving up their seats for me and Dewi on the bus, letting me get on the bus first even though they had been waiting at the stop much longer than me, or holding the elevator doors open for me. I miss those days. As much as I love Singapore, I find that these little acts of chivalry and consideration are rare in my new city. Crowds of able-bodied people who are able to use the escalators bum rush the elevators so that there is no more room for us and the stroller. Women and men alike rush past us and push us out of the way so that they can get onto the train first, while we struggle to get the stroller over the gap and in the door before the train takes off.  People pretend to be asleep on the train so that they don't have to give the reserved seats (reserved for elderly, parents with children, and pregnant women) up for us. As clean and beautiful as everything is here, I really wish that chivalry would find its way here. In the meantime, we will continue shoulder checking those who dare get in Dewi's way.